Mother

So, we received a picture of the birth mother last week. I wasn't expecting to feel guilty. OK, my first shallow thought was she's pretty thank god. Then I felt really bad for taking her child. I know intellectually that this was her decision but it just feels weird. We will have her contact info and we're already planning on sharing that at some later date. Our friends who are getting the twins are going to meet their birth mother this week. I wonder if the decision is easier or more difficult because of this meeting. Maybe with more contact everything just becomes more complicated.

Day care

I worry about daycare. Is it the right thing to do? I know that there are perfectly happy healthy children who have grown up in daycare but part of me feels like I should be staying home. We looked at the numbers and I don't see how one of us (probably me) would stay at home. Would the added stress of a lower income be worth it? How would family life suffer when faced with moving much further out and my partner's commute doubled, tripled?