Thursday, March 22, 2007

Union Station

As I was passing through Union Station yesterday I bumped into an ex-boyfriend, M, on his way to lunch. I see this guy every couple years so we usually have to catch up on big life changes. Last time we spoke L and I were talking about having kids but hadn’t quite moved ahead yet. Both of us had moved out to Maryland, one of us had started a family. Upon hearing the news he was quick to tell me that he did not want kids.

I’ve found the kid gene to be one of the strongest traits. Very rarely do I hear a vague interest from someone. The funny thing is when people tell me they don’t want to have kids the response ranges between accusatory and apologetic. As much as I’d like gay people to have more kids because it would make my life easier and lord knows the world needs more tolerant people, I’m really not recruiting.

Pre-boo I used to get that question a lot, why do you want to have kids. Heck, I’ve been psychologically evaluated on the subject. The answer… I’ve always wanted kids. It was always in my life plan. I buried it for a while as went through the coming out process and readjusted my goals as I stumbled through some gawdawful relationships. How could I take care of someone else if I couldn’t even take care of myself? So I set up some broad parameters before I would consider the kid subject. Fast forward some 15 years and what do you know?

It seems so long ago when I dated M. Hell it seems like another person that dated M. Now, it’s like my life is split in two. There is the time before and there is now filled with laughs, games, hugs, and lots of love. What will happen next in our little family? I have no clue, but I can’t wait to find out.

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

hmmm

Have you ever noticed that when someone sends you an email with the subject line "Too Funny" it never is?

Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Snip!

So my econ class finished up this morning with the big final. It was pretty much a nightmare and I simply hope for a passing grade. I’m long past the need to receive an A and will be quite satisfied with a B.

I finished up my test and reviewed the answers, hoping some glaring error would rise up saying, “Fix me! Fix me!” A few seats away a girl had similarly finished and was looking over her test. I hear her rumbling through her purse for something as I kept studying my test. I then hear this snip snip noise. I look over and she’s clipping her fingernails. Eeew. Is it just me or is this incredibly tacky? I didn’t look long to see if she was catching them in her purse or letting them fall to the floor.

Oy.

Thursday, March 15, 2007

Happy Family

HO CHI MINH CITY, Vietnam — Actress Angelina Jolie picked up a 3-year-old boy from a Vietnamese orphanage Thursday and headed to a ceremony where she was expected to adopt the child, officials said. The star, who arrived in Ho Chi Minh City on Wednesday night, carried the boy from the Tam Binh orphanage to a waiting Toyota van. They were expected at the Department of Justice in Ho Chi Minh City where an official ceremony will be carried out to complete the adoption.

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Good for her. I know the current thinking is that foreign adoptions are the latest fad but Jolie doesn’t seem to be seeking out the attention for her little family. We see little Maddox happily tagging along to meet his brother.

There seems to be an underlying prejudice that families created through adoption are done with less thought or are somehow suspect because of the manner in which they are created. Under the celebrity births announcements in Entertainment Weekly I rarely see questions about why they are having kids.

Let’s allow the Jolie's a little space and give them the room to grow. I think this cross-cultural family is a beautiful thing and I wish them much love.

Tuesday, March 13, 2007

Common Grinds

From the President’s speech in Guatemala:

“We also talked about adoption. I don't know if my fellow citizens understand this, but there are a lot of U.S. families who adopt babies from Guatemala, thousands of babies. This year it is very important for the United States and Guatemala to implement the Hague Convention on adoptions to help protect children and families during the adoption process. We found common ground on that issue. And I appreciate your strong stand, Mr. President, and I assured the President we would follow through, ourselves. “

So, in summary, um, what? Lots of families adopt from Guatemala. We are implementing the Hague Convention and we agreed on lots of things. Thanks for that insight. I’m sure that all the families who are in process nervously awaiting news of their children’s arrival will take great comfort in your agreement.

We would love to go back to Guatemala but the uncertainty surrounding this treaty is too great. The nightmare situation is accepting the referral of the child and then you find out that all placements stop while they work out the terms of the implementation. No one has any idea what will happen. If Vietnam is any indication then the country could close for 2-3 years.

I understand the intent of the agreement but frankly I think it is the families who suffer while the governments work out the terms. The Guatemalan and American families deserve more than platitudes, they deserve concrete examples of the steps the US government will take to ensure that families are reunited as quickly as possible.

Friday, March 09, 2007

I've got one dollah any other bids?


My blog is worth $15,807.12.
How much is your blog worth?



Well, that would certainly defray some of those adoption costs where do I sign up?

Thursday, March 08, 2007

Rainbow Families Gay Parenting Conference in MD

From the Board:

We are hard at work preparing for the Rainbow Families DC 2007 Parenting Conference – FAMILIES LIKE OURS: GROWING. STRONGER. TOGETHER – which will be held on Saturday, April 28th, at the Takoma Park Middle School. The program is looking better and better each day and the committee working on the Kids’ Camp is putting together a range of activities that I’m sure will delight our children. Mark your calendars – registration materials will be available in the next few weeks!

Wednesday, March 07, 2007

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Is there a more ignoble form of communication than the email rejection notice? I’ve become immune to the sting and can now marvel at the sheer audacity of it. Electronic communication can be wondrous as in letting me meet all you fabulous people and it can be as harsh as hitting the enter button to let someone know they didn’t get a job.

I look for the teachable moments from these types of events and I’ve learned a helluva lot. The amount of time that the applicant has invested in the position should be returned in kind. If I’ve taken an hour and a half out of my schedule the least you can do is call and leave a voice mail telling me I didn’t get the job. I don’t even mind if you call after hours, knowing I wouldn’t be at my desk, to give me the news.

Bottom line I think comes down to respect. I go forward thinking about how I’d like to be treated when the positions are reversed. As a manager I’ll value the time of my co-worker. It comes back to how can I make my workplace a better place as an employee and as a person? It’s easy to get into a transactional type of relationship at work but are we better off? I’ll remember this and I’ll do better. Thank you!

Friday, March 02, 2007

WHEEEEEEE!

Some days are designed for skipping out of work early to head to the nearest slide with your boo.





Have a great weekend everybody!

Thursday, March 01, 2007

Catholic U schoolgirl gone atonal!

Oh man, Antonella or as I like to call her Atone-ella never fails to deliver the ENTERTAINMENT! The good news is she's beautiful. I think next year they should have a subcategory of "The good news is you're beautiful." It's not fair that they have to compete against singers. We call call it America's Next Top Idol.

It's pretty much a race between Lakisha and Melinda with the rest fighting for exit order. I didn't much care for Funny Valentine the song but she sang it out.

I hated hated that Beyonce song. It sounded like a big honking mess to me. I don't know if the original was any better but without any frame of reference it fell apart. I had to FF through Haley's Queen of the Night. Oy, that was a disaster. Her fiancee is smokin hot though so I would support her staying in the competition if he gets more screen time.

All aboard the Antonella train wreck!

Wednesday, February 28, 2007

When the barn door is open

Work is picking up as we get closer to our publication date. I feel like I’m slowly sinking behind as I juggle new tasks and fail to complete my little to-do list…and this morning my boss came up and gave me a new project to start. A couple months ago I signed up for this training class that takes up 2 days a week too. Oy. What bad timing.

Yesterday morning I hit some unexpected traffic on the way in so was 10 minutes late getting into class. I hit the restroom because well coffee turns me into a funnel and I dashed into class. All the seats by the door were taken and the back was blocked so I had to walk in front of the class ducking in front of the instructor to get to my seat. I hear a little clink as I sat down and thought what’s that? I look down and I forgot to buckle my belt. Oh. My. God. The zipper would have been less noticeable. I tried to subtly buckle and gave a little ha ha what are you gonna do grin and went deep into note taking. Oy.


(I had no idea how often I said Oy before until I overhead E playing. He was trying to stack some blocks and as they tumbled over he said “Oy.” ha ha!)

Oy.

B

Friday, February 23, 2007

The Day He Became a Man

Last night E ripped a very audible fart, looked at me and started laughing. His surprised look, the giggle, all got me laughing right along. It took me a few beats to realize, oh wait I'm the parent now.

This proves I think that fart jokes are genetic.

Thursday, February 22, 2007

Coincidence?

Prince Harry to be sent to Iraq

LONDON - Prince Harry, the third-in-line to the British throne, will be deployed to Iraq, the Ministry of Defense said Thursday.


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Blair announces Iraq troops cut

Some 1,600 British troops will return from Iraq within the next few months, Prime Minister Tony Blair has told MPs. He said the 7,100 serving troops would be cut to 5,500 soon, with hopes that 500 more will leave by late summer.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Happy Accidents

Headlines you never expected to see:

Mexico City gets gay wedding fever

Friday, February 16, 2007

The Commencement Address of Boo Boo

You hear that sound? It’s a distant ticking, like a clock in another room at 2 am, but it’s getting louder every day. It’s marking the days as I approach my 40th birthday. How did that happen? Some random thing on tv got me thinking about how old I’ll be when E graduates from high school and it’s very old. It’s distressingly old.

I have a good friend at work who has two boys one is three and the other is just over one. The difference is that he’s 11 years younger than me. Time is marked differently with little kids… you notice the passing of months much more keenly as they develop in language or physical skills. I used to look at my goals with getting this degree, changing jobs, getting another degree, getting this training and such and now I think about what school will E go to, what country will be open for adoption, what summer camps will be offered, will this job let me leave early to pick up kids.

It’s an odd feeling. I used to scan the 9:30 club, the Birchmere and other clubs looking for new artists to drag L too, now I’m ordering Sesame Street Fiesta Songs. When I caught E sucking on the drawer pulls again I found myself saying to L “I’m so tired of him putting his mouth on ….” Oh my god, I’m sick and tired of it…. I’ve become my mother. Ah well, the final stage is Acceptance. Does this velour track suit come in my size?

At least I get moments like E deciding to call us Boo Boo, running around the house saying “Hi Boo Boo.” I don’t know where it came from but it’s freakin hysterical. When I'm carrying his boxes up to his dorm room maybe I'll slip in a Boo Boo when a roommate is nearby and they'll laugh at my dark socks and shorts. It'll be fabulous.

Thursday, February 15, 2007

Connectivity

Saturday, we had scheduled a 2-5 window for RCN to come and reconnect our DSL line. You may recall that we had to call them because our contractor seemed unable to give us a time as to when he would reconnect our computer line. We were clear at the start that the upstairs plans included moving this line but I guess it got lost in the wall shifts and such. So 4 weeks later and we still have no connections.

We got our errands out of the way so we would be home at that time. 4:30 rolls around and I call to say what’s up and the they tell us the tech stopped by and no one was home. What a complete fabrication. The guy just got rid of us and invented some bogus excuse. So now we have to wait another week for internet.

E and I had a nice snow day yesterday. We watched some Elmo, played with stickers and play-do, built and destroyed several impressive Lego towers. It’s a shame the weather was icy tundra or we would have gone outside.

We put new drawer pulls on the kitchen cabinets and I guess the silver pulls are too tasty looking. We keep catching E sucking on the lower knobs. It’s disgusting. I can’t imagine what might be appealing about them. They can't taste good and if the metal were to hit your teeth that's got to be unpleasant. Oy and Ew.

Friday, February 09, 2007

little e, Big E

It’s been amazing watching E become a little boy. He’s gotten taller and his face is lengthening, losing some of that baby roundness. We're starting to hear little 2 word sentences now and then.

We’re starting to see preferences for music and for tv shows. He asks for Elmo now and just loves the Bob the Builder theme song. We could rewind and watch the opening for Bob all afternoon if he had the powers. America’s Funniest Home Videos is another one he likes. I think it’s the falling and the animals that hold his attention. It’s basically slapstick if you think about it. The pediatrician recommended against any tv but to be honest I couldn’t do it. I’m home alone with him more than L and I need a little background noise now and then. I try to discourage him from watching and limit the amount that he does watch.

He’s also really digging these Sara Hickman cd’s that I bought. I’ve been a fan of hers for a long time and when I discovered her kid’s music I ordered all of them. E’s favorite right now is the Toddler disc: http://www.sarahickman.com/music/toddler/ especially the Walking, Walking song and the I Like My Boots song. If anyone else has any favorite kids’ albums let me know. I can also put the seal of approval on the For the Kids compilations: http://www.amazon.com/Kids/dp/B00006L7QX (not sure if that link will work or not) and Lisa Loeb’s Catch the Moon book and cd
http://www.amazon.com/Catch-Moon-Book-Lisa-Loeb/dp/B0001DMVM6/sr=1-1/qid=1171051363/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/102-0419800-2706559?ie=UTF8&s=music


His reach is getting quite well lengthy. The little hand is up on the kitchen counter and the island of objects is getting smaller and smaller on the dining room table. Thankfully he hasn’t yet figured out doorknobs but every other latch or lever is fair game. We went through 3 different cabinet locks before we had to use good old rubber bands to secure them.

Two weeks ago we had quite the shocker in our house. I was laying E down to change him into his pajamas, interrupting his play and as I put him down he says to me “No, no, Daddy!” I did a cartoon double-take and was like “Wha?” You did not just tell me no. So I went “Yes, yes, yes” and he “No, no, no’d” and it became quite a little game.

Sigh

So the No’s have started already. Ah well the Era of Yes was a glorious and golden time.

Thursday, February 08, 2007

Transitioning

It’s been crazy busy on my end. The first phase of the renovation is finished and now we’re waiting for the counters to be delivered so the kitchen work can complete. We have about half a counter right at the moment but hey at least its something. It’s also nice to see a break in the dust generation. Everything was getting this fine layer of dust that was overwhelming. (We had plastic sheeting up on the doors but still it managed to sneak through.) One evening I smelled something burning and couldn’t figure out where it was coming from, wonderful feeling that. Finally we narrowed it down to the TV. The dust must have gotten inside and was burning off of some component within. Very nice.

Also, my division here at work is getting re-orged. This has a lot of potential. It means that soon we’ll be under new management and I’m excited about the possibilities. I think it’s going to allow my workgroup to get involved in a lot more projects. I’m going to keep in a job hunting scan just to be aware of opportunities that might come up but a bit of the stress has been lifted.

Also also, my office is physically moving next month so I’m starting the whole purge cycle. It’s frightening how quickly the paper can pile up when you are in one desk for a while.

So that’s what’s been going down. Hope everyone is in a more peaceful place. Heh.

Friday, February 02, 2007

This meeting of the DC-based Waylon Payne fan club is now in session!

So, it appears that Waylon Payne left a message on my post from a few days back. We’re talking about the tattoo on his abs at the end of the comments and he wrote:


waylon said...

they were a former boyfriends initials. he left me and went back to nashville...i've tried like hell but i can't wash him off! seriously, thank you aLL for the support i've been given for telling a bit of truth. you guys rock.
thanks
waylon



Seems to be him and it definitely has his voice so I’ll assume it is true. I giggled like a Japanese school girl when I read it. Drawing little hearts around his post.

Seriously, it is quite good. It’s definitely a voice with experience and soul. I don’t think you can be a good singer unless you’ve had your heart broken at least once. The song Pretender is probably my favorite and should have been a big hit. That’s a killer chorus, you can’t argue with that. Jesus on a Greyhound is a great song and has the hint of based upon some real life experience would love hear the backstory on that one.

I know that you’ve bookmarked my site and will be checking back any day now so are there plans to tour? It looks like you’ve gone Hollywood with your Walk the Line part hopefully that won’t mean that your songwriting and music won’t get attention. Be sure to include the East Coast if you do decide to tour.

Rock on brother!

Thursday, February 01, 2007

Step back everyone! He's got a magical light for making fun!

The nation has been gripped by terror ads. Apparently in a guerrilla marketing stunt (guerilla meaning screwing up your afternoon commute), Aqua Fresh Hunger Strike and its plaque-fighting minions placed flashing electronic signs under a bridge in Boston.

Twenty-two-year-old Todd Venderlin, a design student at the Parsons School of Design in New York City, saw one of the devices two weeks ago as he left a lounge in south Boston, according to The Boston Globe. He said he was stunned when he saw bomb squads removing them.

"It's so not threatening -- it's a Lite Brite, I don't understand how they could be terrified. I would if it was a bunch of circuits blinking, but it wasn't.”



So, an entire city was shut down over a Lite Brite. The president has raised the Terror threat level to Magical Shining Light.

While there’s been much focus on the 2 dudes who placed the terror lights, I haven’t yet heard much talk about why is it so easy for a couple of dudes to place dangerous electronics on bridges? Obviously we have to be cautious but perhaps we’re entering into hysteria land. I expect the TSA to ban on all lights or electronics with flashing lights on flights. Airport screeners are seen hawking gameboys in the parking lots of major airports.

Let’s take a deep breath and calm down.