Thursday, March 29, 2007

Frikkin Laser Beams!

Some news items are just little gifts to make you smile:

Michael Jackson is in discussions about creating a 50-foot robotic replica of himself to roam the Las Vegas desert, according to reports.

The pop legend is currently understood to be living in the city, as he considers making a comeback after 2004's turbulent child sex case.

It has now been claimed that his plans include an elaborate show in Vegas, which would feature the giant Jacko striding around the desert, firing laser beams.

If built, the metal monster would apparently be visible to aircraft as they come in to land in the casino capital.

It is the centerpiece of an elaborate Jackson-inspired show in Vegas, according to Andre Van Pier, the robot's designer.

Luckman Van Pier, his partner at the company behind the proposal, claims blueprints have been drawn up for the show and seen by the star.

"Michael's looked at the sketches and likes them," he told the New York Daily News.

On the subject of the robot, he continued: "It would be in the desert sands. Laser beams would shoot out of it so it would be the first thing people flying in would see."

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Friendly Neighborhood Merchandise

I’ve never been one for branding or logos. I always thought it was odd when people paid more to have a big advertisement on their sleeve or festooned across their back. That whole conspicuous consumption really gives me the heebie jeebies.

I’ve been trying to take this same aesthetic into the toys and clothing that I buy for E. It’s really kind of ridiculous to buy expensive clothing for children anyway because you are looking at one or maybe two seasons of wear anyway. It’s getting more and more difficult to keep this up though especially with toys. Wow, everything seems to be a tie-in to a movie or a tv show. Disney is the master. The stores are flooded with all things Disney. Right now in the toddler set, a fleet of Cars-related stuff is racing through. The shirts, pants, toys and all things Cars are there for your selection.

I’ve never seen Cars and I’m sure it’s a fine movie but the sheer volume of the Cars stuff is overwhelming. There’s really no educational or skills building in anything I’ve seen. Sure there is value in imaginative play but any household item can be great fun for a kid.

So, I’ve given up. I’ve decided to steer E towards the commercial products that assuage my guilt at least a little. The Sesame Street products are all wonderful and all kids seem to gravitate towards Elmo. I’ve always liked Spiderman and with that movie success there’s lots of Spiderman goods at younger and younger ages. I’m still looking for the blocks, the puzzles, and the games because I know soon enough E will be making the decisions anyway.

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Standing beneath an amber moon

There are very dire warnings coming from various international bodies concerning adopting from Guatemala. It’s disappointing to see the turmoil that is coming for Guatemala and its children.

Meanwhile, I’ve heard some interesting possibilities about adopting from Brazil. I’m putting a call out to people if you know anyone who’s adopted from Brazil or if you are similarly interested and I can be of any help please contact me. It seems hopeful.

Monday, March 26, 2007

COLAGE and EQMD event

I know some of these events won't be of interest to all outside this area but I'd like to promote gay family related events when I can. Cheers, my friends.

Howard County PFLAG Panel Discussion on LGBT Parented Families
Co-Sponsored by COLAGE and EQMD
Tuesday, April 10th, 2007, 7:30 PM
Owen Brown Interfaith Center
7246 Cradlerock Way
Columbia, Md. 21045

Have you wondered what its like to have an LGBT parent? What are the real experiences of LGBT families- both the parents and the children in them? What have they encountered in the schools? While shopping? What has been reaction of family members? Neighbors? Co-workers? Has it strengthened or diminished the relationship? What are the many ways that LGBT families are created?
These questions and many others will be discussed. Youth and adults with LGBT Parents are warmly welcome to attend!

This Panel will also include a screening of the COLAGE Youth Produced Film- In My Shoes: Stories of Youth with LGBT Parents. This 30 minute documentary was created BY youth to profile the experiences of youth with LGBT parents.

Friday, March 23, 2007

See it in the Boy's Eyes

Thanks to a long-ago mention by Gayborhood Gringo, I picked up a copy of Jamelia’s Thank You and Walk with Me albums. Why this woman isn’t a big hit over here is beyond me. She is a singles machine and perfect for summer time cruising. Check her out!

I’m packing up my desk as my office prepares to move. I’m purging vast quantities of paper. It’s liberating, I tell ya. Now, I only wish that I could do the same thing at home. Need to finish up a bit more packing and then I’m out of here. Thanks god it looks like we’ll have a gloriously warm weekend! Get outside and enjoy my friends!

Thursday, March 22, 2007

Union Station

As I was passing through Union Station yesterday I bumped into an ex-boyfriend, M, on his way to lunch. I see this guy every couple years so we usually have to catch up on big life changes. Last time we spoke L and I were talking about having kids but hadn’t quite moved ahead yet. Both of us had moved out to Maryland, one of us had started a family. Upon hearing the news he was quick to tell me that he did not want kids.

I’ve found the kid gene to be one of the strongest traits. Very rarely do I hear a vague interest from someone. The funny thing is when people tell me they don’t want to have kids the response ranges between accusatory and apologetic. As much as I’d like gay people to have more kids because it would make my life easier and lord knows the world needs more tolerant people, I’m really not recruiting.

Pre-boo I used to get that question a lot, why do you want to have kids. Heck, I’ve been psychologically evaluated on the subject. The answer… I’ve always wanted kids. It was always in my life plan. I buried it for a while as went through the coming out process and readjusted my goals as I stumbled through some gawdawful relationships. How could I take care of someone else if I couldn’t even take care of myself? So I set up some broad parameters before I would consider the kid subject. Fast forward some 15 years and what do you know?

It seems so long ago when I dated M. Hell it seems like another person that dated M. Now, it’s like my life is split in two. There is the time before and there is now filled with laughs, games, hugs, and lots of love. What will happen next in our little family? I have no clue, but I can’t wait to find out.

Wednesday, March 21, 2007


Have you ever noticed that when someone sends you an email with the subject line "Too Funny" it never is?

Tuesday, March 20, 2007


So my econ class finished up this morning with the big final. It was pretty much a nightmare and I simply hope for a passing grade. I’m long past the need to receive an A and will be quite satisfied with a B.

I finished up my test and reviewed the answers, hoping some glaring error would rise up saying, “Fix me! Fix me!” A few seats away a girl had similarly finished and was looking over her test. I hear her rumbling through her purse for something as I kept studying my test. I then hear this snip snip noise. I look over and she’s clipping her fingernails. Eeew. Is it just me or is this incredibly tacky? I didn’t look long to see if she was catching them in her purse or letting them fall to the floor.


Thursday, March 15, 2007

Happy Family

HO CHI MINH CITY, Vietnam — Actress Angelina Jolie picked up a 3-year-old boy from a Vietnamese orphanage Thursday and headed to a ceremony where she was expected to adopt the child, officials said. The star, who arrived in Ho Chi Minh City on Wednesday night, carried the boy from the Tam Binh orphanage to a waiting Toyota van. They were expected at the Department of Justice in Ho Chi Minh City where an official ceremony will be carried out to complete the adoption.


Good for her. I know the current thinking is that foreign adoptions are the latest fad but Jolie doesn’t seem to be seeking out the attention for her little family. We see little Maddox happily tagging along to meet his brother.

There seems to be an underlying prejudice that families created through adoption are done with less thought or are somehow suspect because of the manner in which they are created. Under the celebrity births announcements in Entertainment Weekly I rarely see questions about why they are having kids.

Let’s allow the Jolie's a little space and give them the room to grow. I think this cross-cultural family is a beautiful thing and I wish them much love.

Tuesday, March 13, 2007

Common Grinds

From the President’s speech in Guatemala:

“We also talked about adoption. I don't know if my fellow citizens understand this, but there are a lot of U.S. families who adopt babies from Guatemala, thousands of babies. This year it is very important for the United States and Guatemala to implement the Hague Convention on adoptions to help protect children and families during the adoption process. We found common ground on that issue. And I appreciate your strong stand, Mr. President, and I assured the President we would follow through, ourselves. “

So, in summary, um, what? Lots of families adopt from Guatemala. We are implementing the Hague Convention and we agreed on lots of things. Thanks for that insight. I’m sure that all the families who are in process nervously awaiting news of their children’s arrival will take great comfort in your agreement.

We would love to go back to Guatemala but the uncertainty surrounding this treaty is too great. The nightmare situation is accepting the referral of the child and then you find out that all placements stop while they work out the terms of the implementation. No one has any idea what will happen. If Vietnam is any indication then the country could close for 2-3 years.

I understand the intent of the agreement but frankly I think it is the families who suffer while the governments work out the terms. The Guatemalan and American families deserve more than platitudes, they deserve concrete examples of the steps the US government will take to ensure that families are reunited as quickly as possible.

Friday, March 09, 2007

I've got one dollah any other bids?

My blog is worth $15,807.12.
How much is your blog worth?

Well, that would certainly defray some of those adoption costs where do I sign up?

Thursday, March 08, 2007

Rainbow Families Gay Parenting Conference in MD

From the Board:

We are hard at work preparing for the Rainbow Families DC 2007 Parenting Conference – FAMILIES LIKE OURS: GROWING. STRONGER. TOGETHER – which will be held on Saturday, April 28th, at the Takoma Park Middle School. The program is looking better and better each day and the committee working on the Kids’ Camp is putting together a range of activities that I’m sure will delight our children. Mark your calendars – registration materials will be available in the next few weeks!

Wednesday, March 07, 2007


Is there a more ignoble form of communication than the email rejection notice? I’ve become immune to the sting and can now marvel at the sheer audacity of it. Electronic communication can be wondrous as in letting me meet all you fabulous people and it can be as harsh as hitting the enter button to let someone know they didn’t get a job.

I look for the teachable moments from these types of events and I’ve learned a helluva lot. The amount of time that the applicant has invested in the position should be returned in kind. If I’ve taken an hour and a half out of my schedule the least you can do is call and leave a voice mail telling me I didn’t get the job. I don’t even mind if you call after hours, knowing I wouldn’t be at my desk, to give me the news.

Bottom line I think comes down to respect. I go forward thinking about how I’d like to be treated when the positions are reversed. As a manager I’ll value the time of my co-worker. It comes back to how can I make my workplace a better place as an employee and as a person? It’s easy to get into a transactional type of relationship at work but are we better off? I’ll remember this and I’ll do better. Thank you!

Friday, March 02, 2007


Some days are designed for skipping out of work early to head to the nearest slide with your boo.

Have a great weekend everybody!

Thursday, March 01, 2007

Catholic U schoolgirl gone atonal!

Oh man, Antonella or as I like to call her Atone-ella never fails to deliver the ENTERTAINMENT! The good news is she's beautiful. I think next year they should have a subcategory of "The good news is you're beautiful." It's not fair that they have to compete against singers. We call call it America's Next Top Idol.

It's pretty much a race between Lakisha and Melinda with the rest fighting for exit order. I didn't much care for Funny Valentine the song but she sang it out.

I hated hated that Beyonce song. It sounded like a big honking mess to me. I don't know if the original was any better but without any frame of reference it fell apart. I had to FF through Haley's Queen of the Night. Oy, that was a disaster. Her fiancee is smokin hot though so I would support her staying in the competition if he gets more screen time.

All aboard the Antonella train wreck!